The Mystery Blogger Award

Hey all!  The appreciation and support in the blogging community never ceases to amaze me.  I was honored to be nominated for The Mystery Blogging Award by two bloggers who I think do an amazing job of fostering the supportive blogging communities we all are proud to be a part of.

A big thank you to Francesca from Diary of A Twenty Something  for the nomination!  I think her blog is amazing.  Almost every post that I have read so far is informative, entertaining and relatable.  Give her blog a read and you’ll quickly see what I mean.   She puts out a lot of quality posts relatively quickly so I’d check out her Twitter too so you can always stay up to date.

Thanks also to The Daily Flabbergast for the nomination as well.  A little bit of a mystery this one and the blog covers various topics so there’s something for everyone.  A true champion in the blogging community I feel.  Always actively engaging with readers and blogs.  Definitely worth checking out!

I appreciate the both of you for taking the time to think about me in your nomination.  So with that let’s get to it.

The Mystery Blogger Award


The Mystery Blogger Award is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion. – Okoto Enigma. The creator of this award is Okoto Enigma’s Blog – thank you Okoto for bringing this to the blogging community.


  1. Put the award logo/image on your blog.
  2. List the rules.
  3. Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  4. Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well.
  5. Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.
  6. Answer the questions you were asked.
  7. Nominate 10-20 people & notify.
  8. Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify).
  9. Share a link to your best post(s).

3 Things About Me:

  1. I have a slight fear of heights.  Chair lifts, flights and roller-coasters all don’t sit to well with me.  It’s getting better though, or at least I like to think so.
  2. Regular exercise helps keep me focused, motivated and feeling good.  I break a sweat 4-6 days a week.  Helps make up for sitting down all day at work.
  3. I have really bad eyesight and have been wearing glasses since I was in Gr. 2.   If only I started wearing contacts in high school it would have made sports so much easier.

The Questions Given To Me:

1. Why did you choose a written blog over a video blog?
Although I do enjoy a good video I think I’m much more suited to write, for now at least.  There are people who like to be on camera and those that prefer to be behind it.  I fall into the later.
2. What are your top 3 favourite films of all time?
The Princess Bride
The Professional
Transformers Animated Movie
3. What have you learned about yourself through blogging?
From blogging I’ve learned a better sense of what I enjoy to write about and how I like to write.  I started blogging to help improve my writing so it has helped in that sense a lot.
4. As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
I always wanted to be a comic book creator like Stan Lee when I was a child.  Something about creating stories just always appealed to me.
5. If you were abducted by aliens and had to describe Earth to them in less than 10 words, what would you say?
Imperfect.  Work in progress. Beautiful. Good. Great potential.  Home.

My Bests Posts:


One of my favorite ones about blogging:

My best travel guide for a city that I grew to love.

One of my best pieces of advice for people in a LDR.

My Nominations:

I picked my nominations based on people who I’ve interacted with lately on twitter.  Whether it’s a like or a comment or reading a post, I just wanted to nominate them because I enjoy their content and also wanted to show support for their blogs.  Do give them a look up if you’re reading this!

Deana from Deanna S. Stilwell

Livvy in Seabreeze Corner

Phigella at

Jerry from Jerri

Mary from Mary Chronicles

Debatably Dateable 

Taylor from This Family We Love

Christina at Navigation to Happiness 

My Questions For You:

  1. What is one thing you really want to accomplish this year?
  2. When you really want to treat yourself what is your go to indulgence or meal?
  3. If you won $100 million dollars right now, what would you do with tomorrow?
  4. What is your least favorite thing about blogging?
  5. Is there anything that people don’t know about you that you wish they did?

On a final note if I nominated you and these blog awards aren’t your thing I promise I won’t be offended if you don’t make a response post.  The purpose of the nomination is more to let you know that you’re appreciated as a blogger and to encourage you to keep doing what you do.  If you do choose to respond though I do look forward to reading your post so be sure to tag me on Twitter so I can read it.

Happy blogging everyone!




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The Sunshine Blogger Award

Another week, another blog post!  This is another break from the usual to do a post for the Sunshine Blogger Award.  I’ve put off this post for a little longer than I should have.  In that time I was honored to be nominated by 4 awesome bloggers.  Going to do all the reply’s in this one post so here we go!


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Thank you Corinne from Broke Today Rich Tomorrow   for the nomination!  If you’re into money (who isn’t?) then you’ll want to give her blog a read.  Lot’s of information and tips on personal finance and ways to grow your wealth and a super cool person to boot.  If you follow her on Instagram you’ll quickly see she also has a healthy love for cats 🙂 I could go on and on about this girl but I’ll leave it to you to see for yourself!

Chistina from Navigation to Happiness also put me up for nomination so a big thank you goes out to you as well!  I love the theme of her blog, it’s a blog about life, striving for the ups but also acknowledging the downs.  The name says it all.  There’s something for everyone so do check her blog out or say hello on her Twitter here!

Shout out and thanks to Peter from Melbourne And Peter for the nomination.  His blog covers multiple topics including his experience as a student studying abroad in Melbourne.   He is new ish to blogging so be sure to say hello on his blog or on his Twitter.

Thanks to Vish from Nocturnalcrazies for the nomination as well! She’s an avid reader, just one look at her blog and you can tell she loves her books.  Her 200 books goal on Goodreads makes my goal of 15 seem like a joke.  😛  Any bookish bloggers should definitely check her out!


The Award

Rules for accepting this nomination:

  • Thank blogger(s) who nominated you in the blog post and link back to their blog.
  • Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
  • Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
  • List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.

Answers To Questions



  • What does it mean to be rich to you?

To be rich to me means means to be free.  Freedom to live the life the way you want to without having to worry about making money.  Freedom to follow your passion and do some good in the world.  If you’re free to live the way you want then I think you’re rich because true freedom is priceless.

  • What is your life motto?

Work hard, be kind, do good.

  • What are your top 3 values?

Kindness.  Creativity.  Determination.

  • If you won the lotto tomorrow, what would be the first thing you’d buy?

A new house for my parents.

  • If you had to choose between a cat and a cat, which would you choose and why?

Hmmm…..probably a cat 🙂  Used to have one growing up so it’s the only logical choice.



  • How would you describe your experience with blogging so far?

A continual learning experience.  Never ending really.  That’s what keeps it interesting I think.

  • What is your favorite season and why?

Summer.  Warm weather > Cold and wet any day.

  • Do you show your true self while blogging or do you tend to hold back?

I try to keep it real as much as I can and write conversationally although I write more than I talk sometimes if that makes any sense 😛

  • When is the last time you faced your fears & what was it?

That last time I got on a plane.  I don’t do well with heights but I’m getting a lot better at it!

  • Do you have a nervous habit?

Nothing that I notice but I’m probably too nervous to be aware of it haha.

  • Are you a dreamer or go-getter?

A bit of both.  I dream then I go after it.

  • Do you prefer to read the book or watch the movie?

Read the book first then watch the movie.

  • What song means a lot to you?

Mia & Sebastians Them song from La La Land.  Get’s me every time.

  • What is your favorite and least favorite part about blogging?

Favorite part is the continual learning and creativity it allows me.  Least favorite part is trying to keep up with all the engagement and social media.

  • What is one goal that you have for your blog?

Make enough money off it to pay for the costs of running it.

  • What country would you like to visit?




  • Do you think blogging is important for you?

I do.  Everyone has their own reason for doing it so I think it’s important for different reasons for different people.

  • Favourite genre of blog?

Lifestyle.  That’s a genre right?

  • How many books do you read annually?

Not sure.  Goal for 2018 is 15 so we’ll see how that goes.

  • What is you are passionate about?

Writing.  Nothing else like it.

  • Do you think your passion suit your major?

Not at all haha.  Majored in economics so it’s completely opposite.

  • What is your main platform (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or other sites)?

Probably Twitter then Instagram.

  • Favourite quote that helps you improve your blog?

Can’t think of a quote suited for that really but I always remember a little bit a day goes a long way.

  • Are you interested in business?

Yes indeed.

  • Imagine that if you are in Silicon Valley, what do you want to choose between finding a stable job and founding start-up company?

This is a tough question.  I’m a little more risk averse so stable job I think.

  • What is the most delicious cuisine you tasted?

My favorite food is Japanese food.  So diverse, just love it.

  • Coffee or tea or bubble tea?

Bubble tea!



  • What is the one thing about you other than blogging which makes you interesting?

I like to read and learn a lot of things.  Always trying to learn how to do things that interest me so if those things I learn interest you, you might think I’m interesting 🙂

  • If not blogging, what do you usually do (Other than work/job) ?

Work.  Gym/Sports.  Write/Blog.  Pretty much describes my life right now.

  • If you could have one super power, which would it be?

Telekinesis.  Think you could do a lot with that super power.

  • Do you think of giving up blogging…. whats makes you go on (motivated) anyway?

For sure all the time.  I think of how much time I’d have if I didn’t blog and do everything that goes along with blogging.  As long as I enjoy it I’ll keep doing it.

  • If there is a bloggers meet in your town/city, would you go even if you dont know anybody?

Hmm I’ve never met any other bloggers so probably not.  I’d go if I knew some other bloggers where going that I’d want to meet in real life.

  • What is your long-term life goal?

Retire early.  Write a book.  Make lasting memories.

  • Do you like Blogging-Collaborations occasionally or would you rather just do your own thing? (if yes than what was the best thing about it?)

For now just do my own thing.  There’s so much I need to do still so maybe after that I can think about collabs.

  • Have you made any close friends via blogging even if it’s just online friendship? Tag them, if yes.

Yes for sure!  There’s a bunch and this post is getting too long so I’ll save that for another day.

  • What do you think about such online blogging awards? Should they even exist?

I think they are a great way to get to know a blogger better and a great way to get people involved in the blogging community.

  • If you could blog about anything, even if you knew no one would care to read it, what would it be? (i love this question from @theprosemachine so i am gonna cheat and keep it! :P)

Fitness.  I love it but I don’t think I have the proper audience for it so I don’t do it right now.  Stick to more wellness type posts instead.

  • Which is the best movie/tv-show you have seen ever? totally random..i know 😀

Game of Thrones has to be the best series I’ve seen for sure.


My Nominees

  1. My Journey To 6 Million
  2. Jen at Bookworm Jen Blog
  3. Mel from Mel To The Any
  4. Bianca from Life As Bianca Blog
  5. John at The Travel Connoisseur 
  6. John at Wading In Wisdom
  7. Oriyomi Isaac
  8. Snigdha from The Book Of Life
  9. Yuulye at A Qoder Blog
  10. Brigid from Blissfully Brigid
  11. Kymberlee at Kymberlee Faye 

If you’re reading this and haven’t checked out these blogs I do hope you give them a look.  I think you’ll find a few ones that are for sure to peak your interest!


Questions for The Nominees

  1. If you were to be stranded on a island and could have one book with you what book would you want to have?
  2. Who would you consider to be one of your role models and why?
  3. Why did you start your blog?
  4. What is your least favorite thing about blogging?
  5. What is something you wish you could be better at?
  6. Favorite place you’ve traveled to so far and why?
  7. Pancakes or Waffles?
  8. Favorite music to dance too?
  9. What is your go to karaoke song?
  10. Best piece of advice for other bloggers out there?
  11. If you could hang out with anyone in the world for 1 day who would you want it to be?

Please don’t feel like you have to respond if these award nominations aren’t your thing.  I promise I won’t get offended at all.  Just think of the nomination as an appreciation for the work you do on your blog.  If you do want to make a blog response then I look forward to reading your answers!  Be sure to let me know when you do so I won’t miss the post.

Happy blogging everyone!



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Dating In A Digital World

Remember the day’s when dating was easy?  Yeah me neither.  The whole ordeal can be awkward, funny, frustrating, exhilarating and mad depressing all at the same time.  But wait, now you can experience all this at an even faster rate all thanks to technology and the internet!  Good or bad it’s here to stay.  This is what it’s like to be dating in a digital world.

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With the invention of the internet, the dating game has changed.  The world has become so connected that you can connect with someone from anywhere in the world at the click of a button.

If you ask any couples today how they met there’s a good chance they’ll say online or through an app and no one would blink an eye.  Rewind 20 or so years ago and saying you met someone online was often met with reactions like “oh…”, “it is tough out there..” or “I hope they’re not a weirdo” and “*gasp* you met online?!”

Gone are the days where dating online is considered taboo.  Unless you’re my parent’s of course.  That conversation always went something like this:

Me:  Yes, we met online.
Mom:  (Frowns) Online? Why online? There’s so many people out there why you need to meet online hah?

Me: (grr) Lots of people uses the internet or apps to meet people now, it’s just how it is..
Dad: Really? I don’t think so.  There’s a lot of crazy people on the internet..

Me: I guess I’m on of them then, geeze really it’s no big deal.
Mom: Why don’t you join a church group and meet some nice people from there?

Me: (Lies) You know what it’s my mistake, I actually met her outside the nightclub, we we’re both tipsy so we exchanged numbers and now we’re going on a date, my memory must be getting bad in my old age.

Mom: Oh, ok.  It’s good you met her in real life, you never know with those online dating things.
Me: ……..

For the most part, the stigma from the current generation is mostly gone.  I think that’s a good thing.  Even though I don’t think the internet has made dating itself any easier, it does have some benefits.



Imagine you were born 40 years ago, in a small town, far from major cities.  Your dating options would be limited to the people in your town and surrounding vicinity.  Odds are you’d end up dating someone local or move somewhere else and possibly meet someone  there.

Fast forward to today.  If you want to meet someone new you can pop open your phone, open an app and view hundreds dating options, near or far.

Dating today allows you to connect with people, anywhere, anytime, just about instantly.

How amazing is that?  We live in a digital world and that means we’re more connected than ever.  Distance isn’t really an issue anymore.

You Have Almost Unlimited Options

The pool of people you can date is no longer limited to solely the people living near you.  Tired of looking at the same faces or running into the same people in your city?  Hop online and see what the next city has to offer.

Meet People Outside of Your Circle

The amount of people have in your circle and extended circle tends to cap out at some point.  Especially if you’re like me and have lived in the same city all your life.  After college and getting a steady job, you’ve likely met all your friends, friends of friends, and aren’t meeting new people on a regular basis any longer.

With online dating, you have another avenue to meet people outside of your social network.  Very useful, especially the older you get as you just don’t have the opportunity to meet new people sometimes.

You Can Find Someone Instantly

I’m not saying you’ll find the love of your life instantly, but you can find someone who you might want to date at the swipe of a screen.

If you really wanted to you could probably go on a date with someone new every week.  Not the best thing to do for your wallet perhaps but dating is simply a game of numbers when it comes down to it.  The more people you meet, the more chances you’ll have to meet someone who could be the right one.



Technology is almost always a double-edged sword.  For every benefit comes an equal disadvantage.  The digital dating world is no different.

An Emphasis On External Appearance and Looks

If you’re a person blessed with good looks, amazing.  You’ll have no shortage of people wanting to date you, in real life or in the digital world.  If you’re like the rest of the 99% of the population then it might be a lot tougher.

The truth is it’s what’s on the inside that count’s, unless you’re on a dating app…

People judge whether they like you or not usually within looking at your first picture.  Everything that is you is being judged in under 5 seconds flat.  Pretty superficial, but that’s how these dating apps work unfortunately.  Yes attraction is important, no doubt about that, but there’s a lot more to people than what’s on the surface as I’m sure we all know.

Too Many Options

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I think that this is a major drawback of online dating.  With all the options available it’s easier to take for granted the people you do get to date.

Date isn’t going how you want?  Who cares you can always find someone else.  The person you’re dating does something you hate?  Toss ’em out, plenty of fish in the see, just move on to the next person in your matches.



Bored Dating

Online dating is almost like a video game these days.  People go on dating apps when they are bored.  Let’s see how many likes I can get in ten minutes…

The ease of dating almost makes it trivial.  Dating should be fun, but it’s not like watching TV and is not something to do just because you’re bored.

Going Digital While Your In A Public Setting

How many people do you see in restaurant’s or bars with their head down in their phones swiping away?  It’s everywhere.

We might be able to connect with anyone from anywhere at anytime, but what about connecting in real life too.  Even with improvements in technology, we can be less connected to the people around us than ever before.

The person sitting beside you might be the person you should ask on a date but you’re too busy on your phone to notice.  Don’t be that person.

Nudes and Di*k Pics

Mutually agreed pics, fine no problem, let love loose.  Unsolicited nudes or di*k pics, just don’t.  You do know that those pics you send are going to everyone and their mama right?



Technology has changed the way we interact, there’s no doubt about that.  We can meet people online, talk to them and get to know them without even meeting them in person first.

It’s both a blessing and a curse.  For myself, I think despite all the downsides to online dating, at the end of the day it’s a good option.  If used properly it’s another way to meet people and when it comes down to it any avenue to meet new people is a good thing.

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Who know’s where we might be in the future.  Maybe you’ll be able to go on “virtual” dates at some point, we really don’t know.  Whatever the case dating at its core will always be the same.  How you meet someone will change, but everything else after that is always the same.  Meet someone, get to know them, love them or hate them, find a better fit or count yourself lucky to have me the right one.




What are you thought’s on dating in a digital world?  Have you had good or bad experiences?  Looking forward to seeing what you have to say.  Let me know in the comments!



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The Liebster Award

A quick post to break up the norm.  Yes it’s overdue as I was nominated err back in December 2017 but you know how it goes.  Now to get to it!

What is the Liebster Award?

The ‘Liebster Award,’ literally translated from German as ‘dearest award,’ is an internet based award. This award is awarded to bloggers by bloggers, and is primarily a way for smaller bloggers to become discovered, gain some readership and make friends.

The Rules

  • Have a display of the Liebster Award in your blog post or in the side bar of your blog
  • Give thanks to the person who nominated you and include a link back to their blog
  • Respond with answers to the 11 questions you were asked
  • Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you love
  • Come up with 11 questions for your nominees
  • Let your chosen Liebster award noms know they’ve been nominated by providing them with a link to your blog post
So I was nominated by the very talented Meera from Escapes and Epiphanies blog.  Talk about a nice looking blog.  She writes about travel, fashion and is quite the artist as well just look at her sketches and you’ll see.  Thanks for the nomination btw!  I appreciate it and am grateful for the thought.  Oh and don’t forget to check out her instagram  and twitter too.  Lot’s of great travel pictures and tips on there, you won’t want to miss it.

My Answers To Meera’s Questions

What are you thinking right now?

I really wish my neck didn’t hurt as much as it does.  This is terrible….

 What inspired you to start blogging? 

I’ve always loved writing so I was inspired to start blogging as a way to start writing again.  I’d put off writing for career and school for a long time so blogging was my way to get back into writing and creating.

Where do you hope to be in 10 years? 

Healthy, happy in my job, own a house, more money in the bank, married to the love of my life 🙂

What are three things you hope to achieve during your lifetime? 

Write a novel and get it published.  Retire by 65 at the latest.  Live to 100 years old.

If your whole life was written in a book (inluding how and when you die), would you read it? & Why/Why not? 

Absolutely would not read it haha.  One of the wonders of life is not knowing.  I like the mystery of it all, it keeps life interesting.

What is your favourite book of all time? 

Hmm such a tough question.  I would have to say Neverwhere by Neil Gaiman.

If you had unlimited money for one day, what would you do? 

No we’re talking! Pay off any debt.  Buy my dream home, complete with movie theatre and gym.  Invest money in a whole bunch of stocks.  Buy some more houses, summer home, winter home, rental properties.  Donate some to good causes.  Book a vacation.

What has been your most embarrassing moment so far? 

Running out of the class in panic mid lecture in a packed university lecture hall because I ate too many prunes….yup.

If you could live in a fictional universe (e.g. Middle earth/Harry Potter/Marvel/Star Wars), which one would it be?

Harry Potter isn’t fictional what you talking about?! 🙂    I’d have to say the Marvel Universe because superheroes.

What’s one thing you wish you could tell your teenage self ?

Don’t get into a serious relationship, there’s plenty of fish and lot’s of life to be lived.

What are 2 of your proudest achievements? 

Starting this blog and getting my current job.

What are 3 things that made you happy today?

Getting prescription drugs for the pain in my neck.  Life saver.  Eating lunch with the family since I didn’t have to go into work.  Reading a few chapters of Crooked Kingdom by Leigh Bardugo.


My Nominations

Here are a few blogs that I hope you’ll check out and show some love.  Check ’em out!

Matt from The Weekend Hiker.   Casual hiker and nature lover.  If you share his interests you’ll want to give this blog a look.

Stephanie from Writings From The Heat.   Aspiring writer, photographer and new ish blogger.  The name of her blog says it all.

Alexis from Life As We Know It.   A blog about a little bit of everything with the intention to help others.  Family and parent oriented so if that’s your thing do check it out.

Annie from Annie Sull – Cringe Attacks and Sarcasm.  A personal blog with lots of humor but plenty of substance.
A.J at Hey Hey Hey it’s A.J.   New blogger trying to do more blogging.  Think we’ve all been there at one point.  Her blog is a personal blog with a healthy sense of humor.

My Questions

  1. What’s the worst thing you’ve ever eaten?
  2. If you found out you were going to die in 13 days what would you do tomorrow?
  3. Where do you want to go for you next vacation?
  4. If you could trade places with a person for a day who would you trade places with?
  5. Pancakes or waffles?
  6. If you could change the era of when you grew up what era would you chose and why?
  7. What’s your favorite social media platform to use?
  8. If you had the ability to change one thing in the past what would it be?
  9. Name one of your guilty pleasures.
  10. If you were stuck on a deserted island with no hope of rescue which 2 people would you want to be stuck on a deserted island with?
  11. What do you enjoy about blogging?

That about warps this post up.  If these awards aren’t you’re thing and you’ve been nominated please do not feel any pressure to write a response post.  I promise I won’t take any offense to it.  If you do choose to do it that’s awesome too and I look forward to hearing your responses.  Don’t forget to tag me in your response when you do.

Thanks for reading!


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How Can You Tell If They’re Just Not Into You

I think we’ve all been there at one point or the other.  You know what I’m talking about.  The point where you’ve been trying to get him or her to date you but they just aren’t reciprocating.  99.9% of the time the hard truth is they’re simply just not into you.  The problem is our emotions cloud our judgment probably 100% of the time.  We hold onto any sign that there’s a chance when in reality, there was never a chance to begin with.  That won’t stop us from hoping though.  How can you tell if they’re just not into you?  Here are some of my thoughts.

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These aren’t the only ways you can tell but rather some signs that you might want to keep in mind the next time you’re crushing over someone and not sure what they think of you.

They Don’t Want To Hang Out With You AND your Friends

Hanging out with you is fine, as long as the two of you are alone.  When the opportunity comes to hang with you and your friends, they’re nowhere to be found.  Funny how that works out.

If they really were into you they’d want to meet and get to know your friends because that’s a good way to get to know you better as well.  It’s also a good way to get closer.  If the friends like them then all the better for them.  No time spent with your friends?  A sign that they probably aren’t in it for the long haul.


You’ve Been Hanging Out For Over 6 Months And They Still Aren’t Sure They Want To Date You.

Sure you’ve been hanging out with each other for a while, but whenever you try to talk about where things are going they brush it off.  Let’s not ruin things by rushing into anything.  I just really like spending time with you.

This really is code for I’m lonely so I’ll hang out with you until something else comes a long.  Things don’t need to happen fast, but if it’s months on end and still no changes, get the hell out.  It’s hard I know.  Especially if you really like someone, which is usually the case.

Move on.  The sooner the better.  You’re worth more than being a fill in.


They Don’t Text You Back In A Reasonable Time Frame.

In today’s day and age, this is the worst.  It’s a big pet peeve of mine.  You send a text and get a response four days later.  Usually with a text saying “oh sorry I just got this now” or “been so busy sorry for the late reply.”  You know where you can stick that late reply? Let me tell you…. 😛

We get busy for sure, but let’s face it our phones are by us 24/7.  A lot of people leave them on all the time.

If you’re getting texts days or weeks later its a sign that they probably don’t really care much to respond to you.

Maybe they legit had a good reason, but if it’s the norm and not the exception, tell them to take a hike.


A Lot Of Your Plans Are Last Minute.

Hmmm, let’s see if anyone else wants to do something first THEN maybe if I have nothing lined up I’ll consider hanging out with you.

If they never want to commit to anything it’s because you’re not high on their “to hang with” priority list.  This is a hard one to realize sometimes because you’re so happy that they got in touch with you that you don’t notice.

You deserve to be someone who they will make plans for in advance.  Don’t settle for less.


They Are Dating Someone Else.

The rock solid proof that they’re just not into you, yet somehow people still don’t get it.  Oh they aren’t really into that person.  They are about to break up.  Things are on the rocks.

No.  It’s simple.

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Even if the person you’re into is dating someone else, you still hold on to hope that things will change.  I’ve done it regrettably, and so have a lot of other people.

Everyone get’s one pass though so don’t be too hard on yourself.  Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.


They Say They Aren’t Ready To Date Yet.

This is the worst.  If you say this to someone who is into you what that person really hear’s is “when you’re ready to date then it’ll be me.” In reality it’s “I’m not ready to date yet, and you’re not the person I would date if I was.”  People should really say that.  Harsh?  Maybe, but it is the truth.

How many of you have held on to hope when someone says they’re just not ready to date only to find out that they’re dating someone else soon after?  I see a lot of virtual hands up, mine included. Yup it sucks.


How Can You Know For Sure?

If they do some or all of the points listed above, then there’s a good chance that they’re not into you.  That’s OK though.  It’s better to know sooner than later so that you can spend your time with someone who’s worth it instead.

I wish I could say you can see the signs if you know them but even them I think we often choose to ignore them.  If I knew what  I know now and had the good sense to pay attention to the signs it would have saved me a lot of heartache and time.   Sigh…live and learn though, live and learn.

Still don’t know and are tired of guessing?  I think the best thing to do is just ask.  Too forward?  Perhaps.  Will it hurt to hear the truth?  Likely, but hey at least you know.  If you continue to pursue them after you know the truth, at least you’re going in eyes wide open instead of lost in the dark.




Have you ever been into someone only to find out the hard way that they’re just not into you?  How did you feel and if you could do it differently what would you have done?  Let me know in the comments below!



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How I Became An Accountant When I Said I Never Would – My Career Story

Now this is a story all about how
My life got flipped turned upside down
And I’d like to take a minute just sit right there
I’ll tell you…how I became and an accountant when I said I never would.

When I was a kid, one of my dreams was to become a comic book creator.  I loved comics.  A majority of my free time would be spent reading, drawing, and writing my own comic book stories.

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I’ll never forget the day that dream was shattered.  I was drawing one afternoon and my mom stops and looks at my drawing and says “why are you always drawing?” I tell her I want to be a comic book creator when I grow up.  “A comic book creator?  Why do you want to do that? There’s no money in that.  You’ll never find work and will struggle to make money.  Don’t do that!” Thanks for the vote of confidence mom.

There are a few things that make me upset in life and one of them is telling me what I can’t do.  Why this bugs me so much I’m not sure, but maybe that’s for another post.  I don’t think it’s because of what my mom said but somewhere along the line I abandoned that dream.  Maybe what she said stuck in the back of my mind, who knows.

My dad on the other hand was an accountant and never missed an opportunity to try to get me to do the same.  I remember saying to him once when I was very young

“I’ll never be an accountant, it’s so boring!”

Maybe that was the nail in the coffin, I just didn’t know it yet.

So where to start.


Growing up it was always impressed upon  my sister and I that we go to school, get good grades, go to college and get a stable steady job.  This is what my parents implanted into our heads over, and over, and over again.  I can’t blame them for it though.  It’s what they were taught and part of the era they were from.  The thing they never had was stability, so of course they would want their kids to have what they never did.  A topic for another day though I digress.

With that in my head from an early age the goal was to get good grades, get into college and get a good job after.  What would I do exactly?  Who knows I’d figure it out as I went a long I thought.  Getting good grades for myself was fairly straightforward until Gr.9.  That’s when it all went downhill.

I blame the school system for picking a handful of the top gr. 8 students to participate in an experimental math program where they tried to teach gr.9 and gr. 10 math in one year.  The program was a big bust in my opinion (maybe I’m just bitter) as over half the class including myself ended up having to take gr. 10 math again the following year.  That and they let some of us bypass science 10 and go straight to chemistry, physics or biology 11.  I chose chemistry 11 and had to retake that course as well.  If I just stayed at the regular pace I think I would have done so much better in math and sciences.

On the other hand maybe I just sucked at them.  English was always a strong subject for me.  It just made sense to me and I enjoyed it.  Sciences and math are where the careers are though right?  With my average grades I wasn’t good enough to get into business school at college but I did get into the arts program.  The goal was to transfer to business once I got my GPA high enough.


Long story short I couldn’t get my GPA high enough to get into the business school so I was stuck in arts.  What do all business school rejects do?  Major in Economics of course, and that’s what I did.

During university I worked part-time and during summer to pay for my education.  The smart thing to do was to do co-op work experience where you work for a semester as part of a school work program.  It gave you great related work experience to your career, a lot of people in the program were hired by the company’s they co-op for as well.  My GPA was never high enough to get into co-op and by the time it was I was no longer eligible as I was graduating soon.

Close but no quite good enough.  See a trend here?

Instead I took the old-fashioned route and worked at what ever job I could get.  You would think a university student could get some kind of decent job right?  My first real job was a dishwasher at a pancake house.  Washing dishes, mopping the floor and cleaning the kitchen and toilets every weekend.  In time I moved on to cook and stayed there for at least a year.  I was happy to make some money and I also learned how to cook a mean breakfast.

I definitely did not want to work in a restaurant  after I left the pancake job.  It just wasn’t for me.  Over the rest of my college career I did A LOT  of temporary jobs.


Counting checks that came to banks and sorting them at night.  Scanning boatloads of boxes that came through customs.  Folding clothes at the Gap during holiday season.  Receiver in a nail warehouse for a summer.  Care helper to a person with MS.  Bird sanctuary lands keeper (quite an interesting job, actually, dissecting owl pellets, clearing fields with large scythes of weed, building bird houses etc)  You name it I did it.  There was nothing I wouldn’t do.  I needed to pay for school and these were the jobs I could get.  At the end of the day a job is a job and  there’s something you can learn from any job.

I eventually ended up mucking my way through college with a degree in arts and major in economics.  Lord knows how I passed those few last economic courses, I still think they made a mistake because I had no idea what I was doing on those tests..shhh.  Afterwards I did what all economic graduates did and enrolled in a post-graduate accounting program.



The plan now was to get my accounting designation.  During this time there were 3 types of accounting designations, the CA, CMA, and CGA.  The CA being considered the “elite” designation and hardest to obtain due to the fact that you needed to get hired by an accounting firm to qualify your work experience.  Also their test and training were reputed to be the toughest of all designations.

My post-grad diploma in accounting was geared towards non accounting graduates looking to obtain their accounting designations.  It was tailored to people pursuing their CA designation because of all the recruiting events they had with CA accounting firms.

The program was full-time at night and allowed you to work during the day.  A lot of people in the program were already working in accounting jobs but looking to get their designation.  I wanted to get a job with a firm so I could pursue my CA.  That was the only reason I took the program.  If I wanted the other designations I could have taken courses elsewhere and could have been well into getting the other designations years ago.  In fact my friend did that, left college and he got his designation and had years of work experience by the time I was just starting this diploma program.    My father had impressed on me to get a degree so I could my get my CA designation, so that’s what I tried to do.


My goal was to get hired by a CA firm so that’s where 99% of my job applications were with at the time.  The process went like this.  You went through recruiting season where you would go to all these recruiting events firms put on.  Try to meet the “important” people, get them to remember you so that they would hire you for the following year.  There was a lot of schmoozing at these events.   Think 15 people huddled around the “important” person trying to get noticed and exchange business cards etc.

I hated it.  All the schmoozing, all the politics.  It just wasn’t my cup of tea, but I did it, because you had to if you wanted to have a chance at getting a job.

In the meantime while looking for a job I worked during the day at a department store in the shoe section.  Not exactly my dream job after university but money won’t make itself.  Talk about hard work though, some people really love their shoes!

After the first round of recruiting I didn’t get hired.  Crappy yes, but I had one more year to try.  That year I went to all the recruiting events (even though I despised them) applied to every single firm I could, over 100 applications.  Small firm, medium firm, large firm, it didn’t matter.  If I could just get hired by any that’s all i needed to continue pursuing my CA designation.


Nothing.  After leaving the shoe department I did some entry-level accounting work with a temp agency for the rest of my time in the program to try to gain more experience in accounting.  Accounts receivables and other entry-level type work.  I hated accounts receivables.  If anything I never wanted to work it again after that.

I graduated from my diploma in accounting program in fall of 2008.  No job locked in.  Financial crisis in full effect.  Down economy.  Perfect time to be a new graduate looking for work.

There was one last chance though.  I could take the first module of the CA program.  Pay costs out-of-pocket (firms usually covered these costs) and hope that this would make me more employable to the firms.

It sort of worked.  My father knew one person who worked at one of the big 4 accounting firms in the city and they had an opening for temporary work during the tax season.  Not as an accountant, but just as extra help in the office putting tax packages together.  I got the job.  This was it, my chance to make connections, meet people and maybe get hired by them after.


After my temporary assignment was over I tried applying with them for other accounting jobs but still no luck.  With that, the hopes of getting my CA were done.  Instead of wasting another year trying to get hired by a firm I had to pursue another designation instead.  The CGA was the one that would work best so that’s what I did.

It was a tough pill to swallow.  Especially because if I had just pursed the CGA from the start.  I could have already been working with 5 years experience and have had my CGA a long time ago.  Hindsight.

To make things even more salty, the only job I could get was of all things, an entry-level accounts receivable job.  This had to be a joke right?

The one job I didn’t want to do again was the only one I could get.  Sounds about right though, considering how everything else turned out.


A Bachelor’s degree in arts, with a major in economics.  Certificate in Liberal arts.  Diploma in accounting.  Lots of work experience but not much in accounting.  In an economy that was still in a deep slump from the crash.  Here I was in my first real permanent accounting job, after all that schooling,  making less than a whopping $30k a year.  Talk about a reality check.

I stayed with that company for 5 years while completing my CGA.  Thankfully I moved out of accounts receivable after a couple of years into a more senior role.

Shortly after I got my CGA, all accounting designations were combined to just one, the CPA.  How’s that for irony.


I finally managed to get a job with my current employer as a tax auditor for the government.  A position that I had been trying to get into since university.  It may have taken me over 10 years to get it, but I finally did.  Shortly after getting the job with the government I applied for the next level job and got it only after a year.  In all my jobs I ever had, there was no better feeling than getting this job.  None came close.  All the work, all the studying, doing odd jobs, failing, trying, it just felt good to finally get something I really wanted for a change.

So that takes me to where I’m currently at.  In a job that I’m happy to be in, and hopefully will continue to be in for a long time.  I know I said I’d never become an accountant to my dad as it was “boring” but I was wrong.  If anything I’m in the area of accounting that I enjoy the most, tax and audit.  But wait, that’s not your dream job? What ever happened to being a comic book creator?


Did I give up the job and just settle for what came my way?  No.  Truth is I never was that great at  drawing.  I was OK but not quite good enough, according to my own self that is.  My aspiration for a long time has been similar though.  I love stories, so naturally I want to create them.  Think of it as being a comic book creator sans the drawing, aka writer.

In the end I struggled a long time to get a job that I told my dad I would never do.  In part I’ve done most of my career up to now in part to satisfy my parents.  Some of you might understand that, some won’t.  Where would I have been if I just did what I wanted?  maybe a successful comic book creator, or maybe a struggling writer without a penny is his pocket.  Who knows really.

What I do know is that I’m ready now to fully pursue my passion for the rest of my life.  My current job affords me that freedom.  I have stability, flexible work hours, no overtime and a defined benefits pension plan.  Would I leave my job and write full-time if money wasn’t an issue? At the blink of an eye hell ya!  For now though it’s perfect.


  1. Never say never.  You might think you won’t do something but you never know how things will turn out.
  2. Parents, be careful what you tell your kids especially when it comes to their dreams and aspirations.  It can have a profound affect on them, for better or worse.
  3. Kids and adults too, don’t listen to anyone telling you what you can or can’t do or become, even if it’s your parents.
  4. Parents want the best for you.  They are not always right, but they try their best to lead you down what they think is the best path.
  5. Your career expectations vs reality are almost never the same.  As I mentioned before.
  6. Nothing feels more satisfying than getting a job you’ve been working so hard to land.
  7. Taking the long route builds character.  In the end you’ll know it was all worth it and probably wouldn’t have done it any other way even if you could.
  8. There is no such thing as a job that is beneath you.  Any job is an opportunity, whether it be mopping floors or selling shoes.  There is always something to learn from them.
  9. Never look down on people because of their job.  A job is a job.  It has no bearing on who we are as a person.  Who you are is not defined by what your job is.
  10. Doing something you never wanted to do can lead you to somewhere you never expected.  Did I mention because of that job I eventually ended up meeting the love of my life?  There’s a story there but I’ll save that for the next post!

That about wraps up this story.  Whoa that was longer than I thought!  I hope it didn’t bore you but I know there’s a lot of people reading who might be struggling in their career or just starting out.  Hopefully you find this comforting or useful in some way.  Thank you for reading and talk soon!



You’ve heard me blab about my story now I want to hear yours.  Did any of this resonate with you?  How has your career progressed so far?  If you’re currently in a job is it one you really wanted or is in an “in-between” job?  Let me know in the comments below!



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Blogger Recognition Award

Hey all hope you’re having a wonderful week!  It’s been raining where I live for the entire January it seems, so much that I’m beginning to forget what the sun looks like.  This seems like a good time to take a break from the normal posts and get to a post I’ve put off since being nominated 3 months ago.. oops!

The totally fabulous Abbie from What Abbie Says  nominated me for the Blogger Recognition Award a little while back so thanks so much!  I really do appreciate the acknowledgement and support, you’ve been nothing but awesome so thank you, can’t say that enough.  If you haven’t already I recommend you go check out her blog or go peep her Instagram and Twitter .  She always has great content all around, really you won’t regret it I promise.



So this award is basically an award made by bloggers for bloggers.  These awards are not so much awards in the traditional sense but rather a fun way to show other bloggers support and appreciation.  It’s also a nice way to get to know a bit more about some of the bloggers out there.  That being said here are the rules for this award:

  1. You have to write a blog post thanking the person that nominated you.
  2. Explain your story on how and why you started blogging.
  3. Share two general pieces of advice to other bloggers.
  4. Nominate fifteen other bloggers and let them know you’ve nominated them too.

Let’s get right to it then.


I’ve always enjoyed writing for as long as I can remember.  When I was young I always wanted to be a comic book creator like Stan Lee or Todd McFarlane but somewhere along the way I was pushed off that path.  Go to school, get a degree, get a good job.  That’s what you’re supposed to do, that’s what the parents said to do, so that’s what I did.

While going to school in my spare time I still managed to write stories, but there came a time where work and school left me with so little time that I stopped writing altogether.  For 3 or so years the only thing I wrote was essay’s or tests.  Once I finally finished all my schooling in 2013, the itch to write came back.  It never went away really, but now I could pursue it fully.  That’s when I decided to start my first blog in the beginning of 2014.  It was a way for me to just start writing again.  Writing about anything and everything, for no one but myself.  After a few months I stopped that blog and made a new blog on WordPress.

My second blog on WordPress was more of a challenge to myself.  I wanted to see if I could write a post every week for 1 year.  After a year of writing posts almost weekly my second blog made me realize that I blogging was something I wanted to continue to do.  I continued writing on that blog until 2016.

That is pretty much when I decided that blogging something I was going to be into doing long-term so I decided to go self-hosted and started the blog you’re reading today.  It’s actually been quite the journey so far.  I’ve learned so much since I’ve started from blogging, writing, web design, photography and photo editing to just name a few.  That’s pretty much my story of how I got into blogging, so now tips!


  1. Write for yourself first.  At the end of the day it’s your blog, so you might as well write about what you are passionate about.  If people read it awesome, if not then at least you’ll have written something you are proud of yourself.  Yes it’s good to keep your readers in mind, but I don’t think it’s good to focus on writing something just because you feel it will get a lot of views.  Keep it real, put your heart, soul and experience into your posts and I think you’ll find you’ll be just fine.
  2. Don’t be afraid to promote your blog.  If you go self-hosted your blog will almost never be seen by anyone unless you do some sort of promotion for it.  I was hesitant to promote it at first but eventually took the plunge and joined Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest.  It was the right move.  My blog doesn’t get a ton of traffic but just engaging with people on all platforms will do a lot for your blog and readership.  You’ll also meet a lot of great people.  The blogging world is filled with them, like all these awesome bloggers you’re going to see below!

If you haven’t checked them out I highly recommend you do.  There’s great content in their blogs and I think they’re pretty cool people to boot.  Do give them a read if you aren’t already doing so already.


  1. Steph at Steph And The City 
  2. Megan at Reflections and Ramblings
  3. Brigid at Blissfully Brigid
  4. Juliemarie at BJJ and Self Love
  5. Off The Court
  6. Meera at Escapes and Epiphanies 
  7. Butterbeer, Books & Broomsticks
  8. Kymberlee at BDD & Me
  9. Corinna from Random Tangent Blog
  10. Lili at Simple Inspired Life
  11. Lowella at Tru To Form
  12. Imagination Girl Blog
  13. Ross at Man vs Adulthood
  14. Lauren from Gone Stalking
  15. Sara from Sara in LaLaLand

I know that some people don’t do these things or maybe you’ve already been nominated.  Please don’t feel obligated to reply, if it’s not your thing that’s totally OK.  For those of you that do I look forward to reading your replies!



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Starting Your Career – Expectations Vs Reality

I was 24 years old when I graduated from university.  A tad late but I did it.  Bachelor of Arts with a major in Economics.  Look out world here I come!  Time to get that job and make some real money for a change.  Fast forward a few months later… There’s me working in the shoe section at a major department store while attending university again at night.  Starting your career can be tough.  I know it was for me and for a lot of my others as well.

You may have just graduated or are close to graduating and have the best laid plans out in the word but 8 months later your broke, hungry, tired, cleaning toilets, waiting tables or  in a job that is anything but what you imagined.  Reality can be a mother sometimes.  When it comes to starting your career, the gap between your expectations vs reality  can sometimes be wider than you thought possible.


I’m not trying to be a Debbie downer, not by a long shot.  I just want you to be prepared.  I also want you to know that if you’re going through anything like this right now, it’s OK.  You are not alone.  With that in mind here are a few things you might expect when you start your career, and how things might actually turn out.

Expectation – As soon as I graduate I’m finally going to be making those big bucks

They sure try to sell you that don’t they?  Go to our school, get this certification, get that degree and you’ll be highly employable and get a great job after.  Graduate and make the big money.  This is what you’ll come to expect because it’s probably what you’ve been told or had impressed upon from parents, teachers etc.

Reality – Apparently the big bucks are reserved for those people with 5+ years working experience or more.

It’s sort of a vicious cycle.  You’re looking for a job but you have little experience, can’t have experience if you can’t get a job.  If you’re fresh out of school you’d be lucky to have 1 year of the necessary work experience  required for most jobs.

The truth is after you graduate you’re more than likely going to land a job that doesn’t pay anything close to what you thought you’d be making.

There are some people who luck out and get paid well early on.  If you’re like the majority of graduates however, there’s going to be quite a few years earning a less than spectacular salary.

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You’ll need to be patient, keep moving forward and put in some time, just like everyone else before you has.  The doors will open, and you’ll get to where you want to be.  It just might take a little longer than you thought it would.

Expectation – The first job you land is going to be your dream job.

The job you wanted with that company you were dying to work with for the longest time.  I think we all have that ideal job that we would love to land after graduating.

For myself my “dream” job was an entry-level auditor at an accounting firm so I could continue to pursue my professional accounting designation.  (I use that term “dream” job here very loosely because let’s be honest, an entry-level accounting job is almost no ones idea of a dream job.  Let’s keep it real.  No offense to anyone if that is their dream job though.)  That or a job at a large company that had plenty of opportunity for movement, and was “cool” and modern.  Like a Google or Apple kind of workplace.

Reality – It won’t be, and neither will your second job, or 3rd job…

In my experience, and the experience of a lot of my colleagues, this was more the norm.  I’ll share the entire story of how I got to where I am today in my career another time.  It’s sort of a long story, but  for now as mentioned earlier after I graduated I was working in the shoe section of a shopping department.  Not exactly a dream job by any standards.

A job is a job though and any job, no matter how big, small, complex or menial, is always an opportunity.

You’re probably going to have to go through a few jobs before you get a job that you feel is right for you.  You’ll get it eventually, but just don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t happen right away.


Expectation – You’re going to go into that first job and be great at it right from the start!

All that education has you fully prepared for everything that’s going to come your way.  You’ve read all the text books, passed all the exams.  You know your stuff and will be able to apply it to your job right away.

Reality – There’s going to be a lot of suck.

Yes you have a lot of knowledge in that brain of yours.  Learning how to apply what you learned to your actual job will take time.

In reality, you’re going to learn more about how to do your job from the people at your job and from doing the job itself.  There’s going to be a lot of learning, and a lot of unlearning.  Sometimes what you get taught in school is totally opposite than what your job would have you do.

The one thing that you’ll have to be OK with is sucking at something, at least for a little while.  It will be frustrating, but the point is if you suck at something there’s only one way to go, and that’s up.

So what does this all mean?

I hope after reading all that you’re not depressed or disheartened.  Sometimes you do get what you expect when you start your career.  For the majority of people however that’s not the case.  I know it wasn’t for me and a lot of other’s out there.  There is light at the end of the tunnel though.

You may think why, why did I go through all this only to get a job I don’t really want.  Was it worth it?  All the time, all the struggle just to end up doing something other than what I expected?

The answer is yes, it was worth it.  Why?  Because sometimes what you expect is not what you need. 

The struggle, the learning what you like and don’t like, the perseverance give you something that is just as valuable to your career as it is to your self-development.  It develops character and resolve, things that can’t be taught in any classroom.

After all your expectations fall through the roof, at the end of the tunnel you eventually get that career job you dreamed of, not because it’s what you expected, but because it’s what you earned.

The youth these days never seem to amaze me.  I see all you young talented writers and bloggers out there and I’m always like wow, you’re all going to go far.  For anyone struggling in their early career, I hope this article serves you well.  If a guy like me can muddle his way to a half decent career than I have no doubt all you talented young  people out there will do absolutely awesome.


Now that you’ve heard some of my experiences, what are your experiences in your early career so far?  Do you find it the same or not at all?  If you’re already well into your career what were your experiences when you started out?



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Looking Back Stepping Forward 2017 to 2018

We made it!  Maybe just barely, but the important thing is that we here.  2018, new year fresh start.  I know we’re already a couple of weeks into the new year so this post is longgg overdue at best.  Seems like that’s been the trend for me so far this year as I could not wake up for the life of me on my first day back to workk from the holiday’s.  Strolled in over an hour late…whoopsies I swear that’s never happened before.  Better late than never though right?  Words to live by.

I always say you need to know where you’ve been before you can get to where you’re going so here’s me looking back to 2017 before stepping forward into the new year.


What a year.  It seems like it pretty much passed at the blink of the eye, so where do I even begin?  If I could use one word to describe the year it would have to be CHANGE.  Lot’s of changes.  For better or worse, but mostly for better.



I had some pretty big goals for myself in 2017. This was the year I was supposed to finally get to that fit bod.  You know what I’m talking about.  That fit bod, the one you always imagine yourself looking like when you glance in the mirror looking all good and stuff.  Keep it right keep it tight, you know that bod?

Well it didn’t happen.  At least not in the way I wanted.  My weight fluctuated from “This ain’t bad” to “I think I see abs!” to “these pants always been this tight??”  Must be because I gained a whole bunch of muscle though right?  Year end measurements were depressing to say the least.  Other than a few symmetrical improvements none of my benchmarks  measures increased the way I had planned.  The only measurement that went up noticeably was my waist…damn…

Measurements aren’t always the best indicator of progress though.  I felt like my workout programs were good and I never missed a week so can’t say the effort wasn’t there.   It was probably the other factors like diet and sleep, 2 things that unfortunately got derailed a bit during the last quarter of the year.

As for the mental aspect I don’t think it got better or worse.  I’m usually able to keep a pretty good mindset most of the time but I did notice a bit more swings in the later half of the year.  Could have been due to the dark weather and constant rain, less sleep and diet though.

Wellness to me is made up of the mind, body and spirit.  It can be a tough balancing act to try and keep them all on the right track.


This year the goal is to try to fix what I did wrong last year.  In particular get the diet and sleep in check.  Hopefully by doing that and training correctly I can put on a healthy 10 lbs without increasing my pant size too much.

I know having a goal to gain weight might sound like fun but trust me it’s not what you might think.   It will consist of eating copious amounts of chicken, vegetables and brown rice, day after day after day…. I’ll be sure to try and put a full day of eating on my Instagram  story one day so if you’re interested at all about that kind of stuff be sure to check it out there.

Another part of wellness that I want to try and improve upon is to exercise my mind more through things like meditation.  I tried an exercise late last year where I attempted to meditate for just 5 minutes and think of nothing.   That simple task was painstakingly hard believe it or not.

More mindful meditation and mind exercises I think will do wonders for the mental health.  I think taking time to calm the mind is more important now more than ever in a society where the brain is constantly being bombarded with constant stimulation.



Definitely a year of learning new things.  I had originally planned to branch off and do other niche blogs but considering the time it takes to just maintain this one those plans were tossed out the window fast.

After some contemplation I finally took the plunge and added a twitter and Instagram account.  It’s been quite the learning experience to say the least.

I think the latter quarter of the year I spent more time engaging with other bloggers on social media platforms than actually blogging.

The thing I learned is that keeping up with social media on top of blogging can be a little exhausting.  Upside is I’ve met some absolutely fantastic people who I would never have met otherwise so it is well worth it.  The traffic to my blog has also improved slightly which is awesome.  Correlation? Perhaps.

As far as actual writing goes I was really disappointed that I didn’t spend much time on it.  Something I definitely want to improve upon this coming year.

One thing I also finally did was get a new camera!  My previous camera was a tiny 2008 Canon Powershot SD1100IS ELPH point and shoot.  It served me well but it was time for a long overdue upgrade.

The new camera is a Olympus OM-D EM10 Mark II and I’m loving it so far.  It’s still an entry-level mirrorless camera but for now it should suite all my photography needs.



There are a few things I want to improve on the blog this coming year.  First of all I want to try and keep a more personal feel to the blog.  It is basically a personal/lifestyle blog so I want to try and keep that vibe as much as possible.

I also wanted to update my layout a bit.  Not quite satisfied with how it looks, but are we ever?  That’s also where the new camera comes into play.  After I figure out how to use it and learn photography a bit I may just have a good photo on here one of these days 🙂

Lastly I want to try to improve my engagement and connections across the blog and social platforms.  Like I mentioned before I’ve met some great people through this blog already and hope to continue that in the new year.

As far as writing goes the goal is to submit 3 short stories to publications.  Not a lot, but it’s a start.



Got the new job position that I really wanted.  Yay me!  Something about getting a thing you really want just feels so satisfying.  I really wanted this position so it felt really good to get it after all the jobs I failed to land in the past.


Not quite sure what my next move will be.  I could stay in this position indefinitely and be ok for the rest of my career.  Only time will tell if that stays the case.  I work to live so almost all my ambitions fall outside of work.  My job flexibility is perfect for that currently so if it aint broke don’t fix it right?



Lot’s of big changes this year, 2 noteworthy ones to be exact.  First of all I finally saved enough to buy a condo.  Whoop Whoop!  Only took 8 years of saving so yeah, no big deal.  Going through the process was pretty hectic but fun at the same time.  It took months of looking at places every day, going to open houses, and making a few offers before finally landing a place.  It’s a decent enough little place, not perfect or a dream home by any means but perfect for right now.

Secondly my girlfriend moved back to the city after being in NYC for the last 2 years.  Yayy! That coupled with making updates to the condo and the holidays pretty much make the last quarter of 2017 a big blurr.  Sometimes life get’s busy, it’s just how it goes.


For the first time in the last 4 months I finally feel like I have some time.  Time to finally get back into the swing of things properly and it feels great.

I know personally I’m the type that likes to keep busy but I definitely love my me time.  A few hours every week to just sit back and relax is a must for me.  I hope to keep a better balance of that this year.   Slow it down, to get ahead.

Furnishing my condo would be also be great so hopefully I can get that all sorted by the end of the year so it’ll feel like a cozy place to live.

Nothing lasts forever the saying goes, and the reunion didn’t last long.  My GF got a job out of town and will be moving again.  This time only 2 hours away by ferry which isn’t too bad.  Good thing is I’ll be able to discover a new city again so that’s a bonus!  Hello Langford, B.C.



So much for 2017.  It was a good year but now upwards and onward to 2018.  I’m grateful for all the experiences, the good, bad and unexpected.

I’ve read a few of y’alls years in reviews for 2017, some had great years and other’s tough ones.   Not matter what type of year you had, one things for sure is that I’m excited to head into 2018 with high hopes and well wishes for a great year not only myself, but for all of you as well.

Here’s to a year filled with lot’s of love, success, and growth.   All the best in the year to come!  Thanks for reading.



Now that 2017 is over, what was your favorite memory for the year?  I know everyone has some new goals for 2018, let me know what’s the one thing you really want to accomplish in the comments below and lets see if we can’t help you along your way somehow 🙂



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Lessons In Love From A Long Distance Relationship

Love is a strange thing as you never really know what to expect.  Sometimes good, sometimes bad, sometimes weird.  I never expected to be in a long distance relationship (LDR), but it just sort of happened.

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I was in a LDR for over 2 years.  Not a lot of time in the big picture of things but enough to learn a thing or two.  Over those 2 years I learned a lot about love and relationships and just thought I’d share a few of those thing with all you lovely people.  Here’s some lessons in love from a long distance relationship.

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1. Adjusting To Change Takes Time

In and LDR one moment you’re together, the next you’re miles apart.  It’s not something that you won’t notice.  You go from seeing each other every couple of days, to seeing each other every couple of months, if you’re lucky.

Any significant changes that happen in relationships take time to get used to.   New jobs, moving in together, getting married, kids etc.  Most of us are reluctant to change.  It’s only natural.  Change signifies the unknown, a disruption from the routine and most of us are creatures of habit.  I know I am.

It’s important to understand that things that make us feel uncomfortable are usually good.  They push us out of our comfort zones and force us to grow and adapt.  Be open to change when it comes.  You might just learn some things that will help you and your relationship grow and flourish.


2. Technology If Used Properly, Helps

Let’s be real.  People in LDRs today have it pretty easy.  Can you imagine being in a distance relationship even just 30 years ago?  You might not see your significant other(SO) for months on end.

In today’s day and age however, a lot of times couples don’t spend quality time together even if they’re in the same room.  We might be in the same space but both be on our gadgets, computers or phones.  Technology in this case can push people apart instead of bring them together.

With the today’s technology, you can see your SO’s face everyday, talk to them anytime you want, and send them a message instantly.  Anytime, anywhere.  Technology has decreased the distance in relationships.  There really is no reason you can’t get in touch with someone anymore.

Instead of letting technology distract from a relationship it can be used to improve it.  Send random text to your SO to say I love you, call them via face time to see them.  Technology if used properly can help bring people together.  It’s a valuable tool that we often take for granted too easily.


3. Little Things Make All The Difference

It takes 1 second to tell someone you love them.  Either on the phone, through writing or via text.  Small gestures like this to show your SO that you are thinking about them help keep each other connected.

Telling them about your day and what’s going on in your everyday life might seem like a trivial thing but it’s those trivial things that we often take for granted that can make all the difference.

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4. Love Won’t Work Without Trust

Where you going out on a Friday night?  Who you going out with?  Oh no you not!

Need to know where your SO is at all times?  Who they’re with and what they’re doing?  In a distance relationship these thoughts and feelings can be amplified x10.  It’s hard to not think about what your SO is doing thousands of miles away but any negative thought’s just don’t do any good.

In any relationship, trust is of the utmost importance.  Without it you have nothing.

You will drive yourself mad thinking about what your SO is doing or might do.  Questioning their actions and  doubting them can also drive a wedge in the relationship.

Nothing you can do will make someone do or not do something.  Love is all about trust, and that means making yourself vulnerable but that’s the chance we all take with love.


5. Any Time Together Is A Gift

The old saying goes “Distance makes the heart grow fonder” which I think is true for the most part.  Being in a LDR  you’ll never take a minute together for granted again.

Time is a scarce commodity.  Time with the ones your love even more so.  A lesson better learned early than before it’s too late.

By spending time apart you realize just how valuable actual time spent together is.

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Learn to cherish every minute spent with your SO as if it were your last, I know I will from now on.

6. Communication Is Key

The key to any good relationship really.  Distance makes things a little more difficult.  As mentioned earlier technology helps but there still are challenges.

Communicating over text, face-time and phone has its limitations.   During the 2 years apart I learned how to be as clear and concise as possible to avoid miss-communication.

No one is a mind reader so being able to clearly communicate with your SO just helps keep things running smoothly.  Communicating well  takes practice and usually lots of it.  It really is amazing how much being able to communicate well with each other helps.

LDRs don’t necessarily improve your communication skills but you do get a lot of practice.  We all communicate differently too so learning how to best communicate with your SO is something worth spending time learning.


7. You Can Overcome Any Obstacle If You Truly Believe It

You will come across many obstacles in relationships.  Some large, some small.  Distance is an example of one of those obstacles.

Some people think distance relationships don’t work out, other’s say love knows no bounds.  Truth is what you believe will likely become your reality.

I went into the LDR believing that things will work out and that it is possible.  Even when no end was in sight I always knew I wanted to be in the relationship and that the distance was part of the relationship.  No matter what I was certain that we would do what it took to be together despite the distance.

If you truly believe in something you’ll find a way to make it work.  This is true to the attitude you take to just about anything in life and not just love so remember to believe in what you want to achieve.



Final Thoughts On Lessons In Love From A Long Distance Relationship

I was in a LDR for just over 2 years and can now safely say things worked out.  Guess we did an OK job at the distance after all and learned a few helpful things along the way.

All relationships are unique in their own way.  There is no right way to be in a relationship.  There’s only what you willing to do to make it work and what you’re not willing to do.

For people in an LDR, yes it can work and work well.  Just remember to communicate well, trust and believe in each other.

For people not in and LDR don’t ever take time with your SO for granted.  It’s a gift, you might not realize it but believe me, you’ll miss it if it’s gone.



Now that you’ve read about my experience in an LDR I want to hear from you.  Are you in and LDR or ever been in one?  What did you learn/are learning from it?  Or just let me know if anything in this article was helpful at all.  Looking forward to hearing from you all!




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